I originally considered putting this in the depression forum, but I thought I'd get a better balance of responses here.
So I'm on a couple other sites about psychology and such, and someone opened a thread about self-loathing. Namely, trying to understand it. Most of the responses were people who have experienced it trying to explain the feeling, then....this comes along, and I'm inclined to believe it.
Quote:
It's a trap for*SUCKERS.
Just look at all the ''I hate being a woman'' threads - the responses come pouring in faster than a male lion sniffing out a fresh female in heat.
The ''damsel'' effect - works well if you want a*free pass.
Nothing is wrong with those people; I do not buy any of that*nonsense or ''constant*self-loathing". The more you 'self-loathe' the more SUCKERS come in. Even more if you're a female.
Now,
Do a similar experiment about how*awesome you are or how much you love yourself. The responses are usually;
''That's nice.'' - or extremely*negative. Anything non-self-hating is narcissistic / shallow / pretentious / or personally attacking someone elses ''character''.*
LOL.
These*con-artists/mass manipulators/exploiters*have mastered how to play the intrinstic human emotional-state like a fiddle to attain gains; so much, it is done ''subconsciously'' out of habit.*
The innate human-response is to ''help those in distress'' - they are exploiting*human sucker + the genuinely kind out of their gains. I see a whole bunch of lollipops sacrificing themselves*irrationally.
Ex;*
What would you say when you are in*need*of some ''cash'' .. just because you do not want to spend yours...
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Rather than write some long thing, I'll leave this to you guys. I suppose the most disturbing part of this is, how can a "self-loathing" person trust their own feelings? Surely, the way to cure such feelings is to basically command the person to love themselves and stop faking. "No, you're lying. You're only angry with yourself for attention. You don't really have any problems - stop lying and be happy like I know you really are."
I just tried it and it's not working. It really does open a terrifying kind of confusion - are these private, angry thoughts real, or just that subconscious manipulation I've been doing for half my life? Especially since I got in the habit of sharing them online (which I've only recently begun to reign in, regretting how much I've exposed). It does make me wonder about my own feelings: are they real or do I just manufacture them to feel something myself and get attention from others (because self-love would be unbearably boring).
So, is this person clueless, or the only one willing to speak the truth? Is self-hate really just narcissism?
Crap, I wrote a long thing.