Often that develops when one grows up around individuals who "need" to have the control and have others live by their opinions of what is right. A quest for approval is often a quest that can lead to no where and missery simply because there is no such thing as "perfect". You are not alone with this fear and this fear has become very marketable and profitable for many who create something to have/own/achieve/support that represents "if you have this you should be admired". The old fashioned name for this is "keeping up with the Jones's".