I am glad that you broke up.

It didn't sound like a relationship with any future especially since he is still married. I think that's why his family were unwelcoming to you. His ties to his ex aren't cut and it is no matter if she isn't nice. They are married plus who knows what really happened as you weren't there. And family might have different ideas about it.

I don't know why you are saying it's unrealistic to meet men who are single. Plenty of legally divorced men out there with or without kids. The fact that he has adult children ( so no custody issues) yet wouldn't get divorced speaks volumes. On top of it he thinks it's ok when they discuss his wife with you. He isn't available for a new relationship.

You can do better

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