I could have written the same post about my bf. He plays the blame game and when I try to explain my anxiety, depression, BP to him, he gets defensive. I'm not in therapy right now but if I was I'd want him to come to a session with me so they can help him understand my illnesses and that what I'm going through is not my fault. So that's the only suggestion however your husband already said no to that! Are you by any chance raising your voice when you do talk to him? I would just calmly let him know that you want him to go to counseling with you and that its important to you and the marriage. Maybe he has some issues from his past and he doesn't deal with confrontation too well. He should probably talk to someone about it. Don't give up just yet. You can keep throwing crap at the wall and something will stick eventually right? Sorry I wish I had a better answer for you!

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