I just wanted to jump in here and tell you to stay strong on keeping him out of your life.

This guy is not good for you. He has control over you, even when he is not saying anything...

It sucks being vulnerable to this kind of control, but I really feel that if you are aware, then you have some defense. Knowledge is power. And everyone here is on your side.

As an aside, I am not a fan of anyone diagnosing themselves (or anyone else, for that matter). If you need a diagnosis for treatment's sake, see someone who knows. But that's just my opinion, fwiw.