I suppose there isn't a way to tell between actual self-hatred/loathing, and narcissistic attention-seeking.
I actually asked the person who wrote this what the alternative is to self-hatred then. The answer being suicide, self-killing/ego-suspension, or medication.
I also asked what people have that they "don't want to spend", and got this for an answer:
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They'd rather exploit than admit to or take actions to self-defeating laziness and lazy behaviors via oneself (improvement). This does not have to be conscious exploitation - many do it out of ritualizing methods - avoiding untreated mental illnesses / mental treatments, or acknowledging the exploitation of others.
I am not saying, that genuine self-haters do not exist - however, they are small portion; the will to live is driven by the ego.
I understand, most are seeking suckers to repair their illness that is untreatable by suckers. ''Poor suckers'' - have no self-control/awareness of their own exploitation, and taking advantage of / burdening the overly-empathetic-handicapped is not something I support & they will be exposed.
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So self-loathing is laziness, a refusal to fix what's wrong, also relying on others for emotional support is exploitation. Or maybe I'm still reactive about this whole thing.
It bugs the hell out of me when I see people act like negative feelings are just the result of laziness: if you would work and achieve things, you wouldn't be depressed, self-loathing, lonely, etc. You just need to make an effort. Well, sometimes an effort is pointless. I know I tend to see the things that are wrong as largely unchangeable; if they're within myself, then yes, I'm going to hate myself for it.