The goal is threefold. First I want to gather information to make a decision about where our relationship is heading. I have for some time now questioned my relationship with her and the future of it. I also want to give her a chance to change, to address some of the issues we have and see if, in time, she is willing to make positive changes. Finally, I want her to hear about how our family trauma has affected me so she understands some of my behaviours.

We are not emotionally close and she lives in denial about how severe our family problems are. So it could go badly. But that would just give me information on which to base the future of our relationship.