Some alters experience the external world and want to know everything....The person out front has to sometimes act as a referee either obliging that one or totally ignoring them as not now....Sometimes it is about compromise especially when something extremely important is going on externally....If it drives your behavior in the moment or later on then you can recognize their control /switch /influence. There is a fine line between training and out right abuse though, I think we as the referee are where we should lean on and a good therapist....We know how best to be gentle with ourselves and not just abuse your others because of training.....Of course, there are a few instances where I understand when your fighting for your life and trying to hold things together with your family and job I totally get that, but it can only get you so far....Hopefully it doesn't get that far and that your communicating more and more .....I don't think that is controllable, I started to meet a bunch of alters seemily within a few months I think the numbers/emerging happens differently for most people. I think the best thing to do is talk it out with your therapist don't just sit there quiet, that was my biggest mistake when I entered therapy. Training can be very beneficial when you know why it is necessary instead of some big cuss you out with you and them eyes if you know what I mean lol