The first one I see now always seems surprised when she asks me if I trust her and I same about some things and that it is that she will usually stay back, she is there when she says she will be and for the amount of time contracted for. She seems to think it should be more because she will then ask me what about X, or Y or Z and when I remind her I have found her distinctly non-trustworthy in those areas, she always says she thought I had started to - but then will give no specifics as to how she was so grossly misled.

I don't think it is often obvious about what they are doing that is useful or supposed to be useful or not - certainly they have not been, in my experience, open about it or clear - if they say anything it is in such nebulous wishy washy language as to not give any real information. I liken them to weather people and their predictions where if the world does not end, they are accurate because there was weather regardless of them predicting rain and only sunshine was forthcoming. I do not believe in blaming clients for being confused as to whether therapy is doing anything for them or not let alone anything useful. Certainly for me it has not been useful in how the woman seems to think it would be. I am much clearer about what is actively harmful for me (CBT) than what is useful other than the woman staying back and not actively trying to impose empathy upon me.