no, you're not hijacking at all.. i prefer discussion and that means two sides. i am very ambivalent about therapy. i have met a LOT of people in mental health circles due to various experiences, both professionals and clients/patients... but i have met so very few who seem to have gone through therapy and gotten better. i have met a number who have gotten a lot better than they were, but then stopped moving forward... some just because of their own limitations and others because it meant leaving therapy and they couldn't tolerate the idea. Some will change T's because they have some kind of need to go through the process again and again... which says to me they didn't get healed, what they got was addicted to the process somehow.

i am sorry your experiences were bad too. i have been hurt in the past so bad it took me 10yrs to try again. But that's another tale...the one of the T that wasn't. Like my T said, anyone can call themselves a "therapist" doesn't mean they have any training. This time i sought out a psychologist for that very reason.

i'd be very interested in discussing your experiences more if you care to share them.