hi lady, it pains me when you talk about your eldest daughter, although i'm not not a mother but i have seen the suffering of my parents when both my sister and brother left. And it still hurts more than anything as i am the youngest growing on my own without them, and allowing my mother to take her anger and frustarsion out on me, it is just my mothers way of coping, But i have learn to accept and hope one day my parents will hav some insight into my world and see that i'm human too, but most of all i still luv my parents more than anything. all i want to say is luv is strong, it does not die staright away, i'm sure you daughter luvs u, just probably has a different way of showing it. Take care and all the best...anna