Those changes are reversible though. Heal the past and learn to nurture and support yourself and you will make better decisions going forward and find the power to change your circumstances. For example I always thought my abusive past just made it hard to make friends. But working things through in T showed me that I subconsciously push people away without even realizing it. Now I've made 3 good friends in the past 6 months since I had that revelation. So you can change how you think and act and that changes your life moving forward