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Originally Posted by Shaly78
Years ago, I used this term during my first experience with T in an email between sessions....I remember the memory exactly, it was the first word that came to mind and I remember debating whether to use the word, then I just said ok I'm not going to delete it........As of the current 2016, I'm not sure why I just didn't say 'question', query is a question and is usually a request for more information in the pharma/cro world where I use to work. Bringing this as a DID example, do you think this was an alter trying to get time out talking about the problems and successes at work? Do you think it was a reminder to bring up work to discuss in session? I don't have this is a big problem like it use to be, mostly because I try to choose my words carefully. At the same, time if can cause you to delay in getting a diagnoses because I have skipped alters names coming out first before speaking (tip :for those who need a diagnoses)....How do I relax and allow the out of control feeling to display with talking and not worry about what is coming out? So that I learn my system I'm pretty much diagnosed, but starting a new T next week and sometimes documentation doesn't matter, so I might have go in with the mind frame of diagnosed again....I used to see that as a bad thing, but I'm so symptomatic that surely they will recognize it right away, plus I don't need recognition right away because of the validation I've gotten in the past. Just in case there is any 'acting' in us lol
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only you and your treatment providers knows how and why you use the word Query rather than the word question.
with in my my alters used the words of our culture and words that were popular during their creation and during their existence as long as it was part of their "sense of agency" (what their job, purpose, reason for being created, where they fit in with the system, how and when they were able to take control)
examples...
those alters with in me who's sense of agency was intimacy, their wording was that of what one would use when dating and having intimate relations.
those alters who's sense of agency was anger used words of anger including swearing
those alters with in me who's sense of agency was fear used wording that expressed fear and the fearful situation.
how to relax and be able to express yourself during therapy only you know the answer to that. what I can tell you is what relaxes me when having a hard time expressing myself...
I use the grounding relaxing tools I have learned in therapy such as breathing, meditating, going for a walk, rowing my canoe around the lake, painting, drawing, journaling, smelling apples and cinnamon flavored candles\food items. sometimes i also take a favorite comfort item to therapy with me.
again only you know what your alters sense of agency is and what will relax you and your system.