If you would hate to start over with someone new then maybe that is because you really like her and would really like to work with her :-) If you felt generally positive about the first session then I guess that means things are going great. I have to admit (though this might be more specific to my pathology) I'm much more likely to be left thinking 'I'm really not sure about working with this person' than being left feeling positive about the way things have gone. If you feel generally good about it then I would say that it is indeed likely that you are a good match :-)

Therapy doesn't have to be logical. If your therapist is psychodynamically oriented it is likely that she will be quite interested in hearing whatever is on your mind. Different psychodynamic therapists have different ideas as to how interactive they would optimally be. Some are fairly interactive (in the sense of asking questions and structuring the session with talking about different things). Some are happy to be interactive if the person is having trouble talking, but would like to move to something a little more 'free associative' where the client talks more and the therapist doesn't say a great deal. Some refuse to be interactive and they will happily sit in silence until the client thinks of something to say.

Does she have a couch in her office or just chairs? (That is a fairly good indicator).

In a way... It doesn't matter so much what in particular you talk about. What happens... Is that you talk about whatever whatever over time and your therapist starts to see patterns in the way you interpret other peoples intentions, the things that seem to be holding you back etc etc etc.

The idea of free association (which, admittedly isn't something that ALL psychodynamic therapists use) is that you should say whatever comes to mind without censoring your thoughts. Without censoring them because you think they are irrelevant to your problems or without censoring them because you are embarrassed about them or whatever. Most people can't do free association very well. They find that they censor what comes to mind for a variety of reasons. Part of the psychoanalytic process is to figure out what prevents you from saying what comes to mind. The reasons why you don't say what comes to your head. Because you worry that your therapist will think you are stupid or silly or will condemn you. And why would you think that? Maybe because your parents weren't very sympathetic to you telling them what was on your mind etc etc etc.

This is just one psychoanalytic technique, however. The fact that she listened to you and wasn't very directive makes me think that she might be wanting you to just continue on talking to her, though.

How is this supposed to help????? Our early experiences with our parents and siblings and the like are very influential in the way that we relate to people currently in our life. Your therapist will probably be trying to access those patterns... And trying to show you what some of these patterns are and the reason why that pattern is there (because of past stuff). The notion is that once you become aware of the pattern and aware of alternative ways of relating to people... All within the safety of the theraputic relationship... We find the courage to interact differently in our present relationships outside therapy.

But that being said... I guess a logical place to start would be... To talk about some of the problems that led you to seek therapy in the first place and then kind of see where you end up...