Hi d.o.a.
I'd say...........I know (!!)..........that
you are the much better person in this, and it's
you who has the absolute right to be disappointed in
him, NOT the other way around

And not being what he wanted you to be...........well
he wasn't what
you wanted him to be
much moreso..........a loving, caring father............
The blame...........well he was to blame for not being good enough..........
not you
But
now...........let's see it as his loss, because regardless of what
he wanted you to be..........you
are going to be what other (more worthy) people are going to want you to be, just by being you.
And I,
for one, appreciate and value you for who you
are
Alison