Well, now after reading all this, especially what WinterRose wrote, I am thinking maybe I did have a phase of erotic transference. In fact, I think it was when I first came to PsychCentral in January of this year. I was feeling really intensely toward my T (I'd been seeing him about 3 months), thought about him all the time, etc. I didn't have romantic fantasies about him, but he occupied a lot of my thinking time. That's why I came to PC, because I felt my feelings were terribly aberrant, like this is highly abnormal I am feeling this way. And I found others here who had felt the same, and this normalized the experience, and then I read the In Session book, and found even more "role models" for my experience. So yeah, I guess I did have erotic transference back then. But things changed after a while, and I passed through that phase into a deeper bond, not so obsessive, just really comfortable and warm and filled with trust to the nth degree. I love what we have now, and I think maybe I it was essential for me to pass through the erotic transference phase to get here. So, it's all good. I have learned a lot from this thread.