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Originally Posted by DesigningWoman
I would say first of all you are spending time around shallow, awful women. All college age women aren't like those you described. There are many young women on every campus who are not as you described. I spend everyday on one as a Student.
If you want to meet girls who might be interested in you, I would suggest checking out the independent non Greek student activities, usually via clubs. You would be quite surprised the number of girls involved in sports, nerd, and gamer culture on most campuses. I (female) am in an off campus dungeons and dragons quest. We have more women than men currently. In a more relaxed social atmosphere, you might meet a really nice girl who likes you back. She might or might not look like a Barbie doll. But frankly the sameness of the dull attractiveness sorority and frat members is boring after awhile.
Also you seem preoccupied with sex. I am older than you. Looking back at all the freaking out of my fellow students over hookups is pretty stupid. And yes, that has been happening for a long time. Hookups can get you only a few things:1. Unwanted pregnancies 2. STDs 3. Serious psychological repercussions
I fell in love with a wonderful, intelligent woman who had cerebral palsy. I loved her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. The extent of our sex life was not a concern.
In the grand scheme of life and love, sex is only a part. You might think about limiting the porn because it seems to be giving you a warped view of sex and women.
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Yeah, the porn is definitely a problem for me, I don't even like it, I just watch it because I'm so lonely and have never had a relationship in my life, I guess it takes away the feelings of anger/depression /loneliness/bitterness for a little bit, but I just watched it because I don't see any women at all or have the chance to interact with any women my age because I'm not even in college yet (I start this summer), it's just hard because I think all the time that I will never be able to find a girl that I like because they're already taken by the confident/outgoing, assertive, athletic men. I don't want a girl that is a 9 or 10 on the looks scale, they would probably end up cheating anyway (if that ever happened) I would rather have like a 7 with a good personality, that likes me for who I am and accepts me the way I am and that has similar interests as me, I swear it's impossible to find a decent girl these days, maybe I'm wrong but that's how I feel all the time, that people's worth is based off their achievements/appearance/social status. I don't know, I'm probably just making it worse in my mind than it really is, but society just shoves that idea down our throats ya know? My job situation bothers me too, I feel stupid at my job because I'm always getting taken advantage of /bossed around because people can tell I'm shy/sensitive. I'm always getting told about how what I'm doing isn't good enough, how I need to listen and follow instructions, but I do listen, the only problem is I get so anxious and scared of making another mistake and getting yelled at, so I second guess every decision that I make, and peop,everyone think I being rude when I don't talk, but I do want to talk, I just don't want to get yelled at or chewed out, ugh it's just exhausting and frustrating to say the least.