Being co-dependent isn't a terminal illness.....one can learn to change given the right therapy. Don't know where you live in KY, but I found the best therapy here....much better than anything I ever had in private therapy in California.

I didn't live with an alcoholic but I did live with a man who was totally incapable of emotional connection for 33 years. I know that one can get out because I did. You don't have to let this relationship kill you.

The psychologist I was seeing got me involved in their DBT group at the facility & that was the best thing I ever did for myself. I had already LEFT my H & moved 2100 miles away to KY where I didn't know anyone. I am now surrounded by the most wonderful friends & have support I never experienced before in my life.....but I am also able to be a support to others now also so it's not all a take situation finally.

It was bad enough living with the totally dysfunctional person I lived with. He drove me to be the raging non-drunk person who was seeing nothing but red by the time I left him. Change is definitely possible but it requires reprogramming those neuropathways of thought that you have at this point in time.......no time like the present to start working on change....it will give you much better respect for yourself above all else.