That sounds like good advice from spal.....for sure....it does take time & there is nothing like time to determine what true feelings are. Gut feelings & the fluttery feeling of being excited to be with someone is the first step of knowing that you like the person enough to want to be with them. When you are with them & wanting to be with them more & more is a good sign, but it takes time to get to really know the person, & don't be surprised if there is something that you don't know about the person that might really turn you off from him. If that doesn't happen & time continues & you continue to enjoy being with him, then that is a good sign that there might be more to the relationship.....with even more time.

The key that I found is that if you find things that turn you off & are issues in even the back of your mind....you need to listen to them & figure out if over many many years, you would want to be dealing with the bad things. That is what happened with me & now I have been in a 32 year marriage that shouldn't have been from the start if I had listened to my gut feelings rather than the people around me.

You will know over time if you listen to your true inner feelings & not the emotional driving thoughts that can make you do things you later regret.

Hope some of this makes sense,
Debbie