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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Starting up conversations are so easy for some people, me being one of them. The other day I was in an elevator full of people at a business fair. It was awkward standing there in silence. There was a man in front of me holding a box. I asked "What's in the box?" And he started talking with me and filled the silence with some light conversation, breaking the ice.
Did you and the attractive woman just sit at a table, eating, not speaking at all? I hope someone outgoing just breaks the ice with you, if you feel too shy to do it yourself.
It doesn't even matter what you say. You could just look at her, smile, and say hi.
If she seems really closed off and gives you the cold shoulder, then just back off. But I have always found people happy to chat.
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Thanks. I wish I could see it as easy as you do. That girl, she was with her friends, and they came to my table because I was the only one on the table, so, they asked if there was anyone else on the table, and then her friends went to buy something from the cafeteria, while she stayed alone on the table with me. I guess they reserved some space, and she stayed to watch their stuff. Anyway, no, I didn't talk neither did she. It's not the idea that I initiate something that dreads me the most, but what's next. I thought of telling her something ready in my mind, but then I was afraid that I couldn't follow up (which made me nervous), which would make things awkward. I think you're right. I talked to a couple of girls, but no one declined me upfront, but I found the least awkward conversation goes when I'm not prepared and when I don't think too much. That's why I think I would do much better if some initiates the talk with and surprises me, because most of the time I overthink the possible scenarios
