I have thought and thought about this question... In my "younger" days.. I felt many of the things that you have expressed alexandra.

I have been "in" therapy for 23 years - working on being a good parent,, holding down a stressful job.. on-call.. also getting out of an abusive marriage of 12 years at the time that my son was born. Resolution of my faith .. was a huge.. commitment in time and effort... understanding.. the evil of the world.. and the love of God.. and where I with my DX and the trauma that led to my DX came from.. and yes my DX was caused by extreme trauma.

As I have expended energy.. on physical illnesses.. raising a son (22).. going thru the death of all of my family... it has changed me... especially this past year.
I do have a sister.. though we severed contact.. our pain just mirrors each others..that was 3 years ago.. at my father's death..

So I guess... for me... I feel that I don't want to "waste" more time on what I feel would be a very long, very hard process..
for me.. that is the operative word ME.

As an analyst myself.......... I have put the situation on the scale.. as I call it.... weighing pros.. and cons..

And the scale is weighed.. in the pro side.. of not spending the time seeking integration...

I appreciate your viewpoint.. and I know you like to debate.. and I really respect that in your posts..

For me this as you also must recognize is any "individuals" decsion.. for DID people..

I wasn't going to post anymore.. on the idea of integration.. but your post was very thought provoking.. and I wanted to respond..