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Originally Posted by Pennster
I feel for you on this! It sounds like he is willing to work very hard on it at least - I hope you will be able to feel understood soon.
My therapist sometimes sounds a little angry at a former therapist of mine (who was a good therapist, but whose modality wasn't a good fit for me). He also told me one time that he cried when a therapist kind of screwed him over once in a way that made it impossible for him to keep seeing her. I am really grateful for the fact that he knows what it's like to be vulnerable in a therapeutic relationship. It would be so hard to feel like he didn't get how painful it could be, and I didn't realize until this thread how important that is.
But you express yourself really well and he sounds really sincere in trying to understand you - I have faith that you'll both be able to really fix this - I really wish that for you.
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Thank you for sharing this Pennster - It is so interesting that your T was able to express some anger towards your former therapist, and how that was informed by his own experience of a problematic therapeutic relationship. It seems like something that you really have to go through to understand.
Like you say, hopefully we can forge some understanding between us, I also believe we will get there, but it is hard work with a T who has many years of therapeutic work (and presumably preconceptions) under his belt, but he also has a lot of empathy and determination.