I feel the exact same way about jobs, careers and "passion." I graduated from university without ever finding my "passion," which turned out to be a waste of time and money because I still can't find a job that I don't hate. And I agree, the whole career thing is so stressful! It's like all the "normal" people easily find their niche and work at it their whole lives while loving it, and I can't figure out what must be so wrong with ME because I just cannot find mine. I'm also incredibly stressed out because I'm 31 now, like 8 years past graduation, and virtually everyone my age has a career and a wife and kids and a mortgage and I have none of those things. I can't relate to people my age anymore, and that's so depressing.

In your own words, "it's not like [you're] not good-looking" so that's a starting point -- I've always been ugly and morbidly obese, with such a slim chance of ever finding a significant other! Sometimes I think that it was for the best, though, since I couldn't even support myself. I also hated the superficial ******** that everyone seemed so absorbed in around their 20's -- everything was all about who was hotter or whatever, while I've always been more interested in a girl's personality. Admittedly I went to an incredibly conservative, private, religious university that didn't even have a "Greek system" or wild parties... But most of the guys were still so stupidly superficial. Yes, a large part of modern society is focused entirely too much on appearances, and I think that getting PAST that is a critical part of "growing up" or whatever. I agree with DesigningWoman, it sounds like you just aren't encountering the right kind of women.

You've also got your youth going for you; it's not too late. Don't let the social anxiety shut you in! That was the WORST mistake of my life, I think; I was so afraid of social interaction that I started avoiding it entirely, until by graduation I never left my dorm room for anything but classes and food. Can you see a counselor or therapist or anything at your school? It could help to talk through some of those issues, you know, and you should be able to do it privately and discreetly. Just get out there, even if it's frightening! You'll regret it if you don't.

Take care. I hope things get better for you soon.