I'm a kindred spirit, in that I love being in a committed relationship, but I prefer having my own place. In my case, I just never married the guy I've been involved with for years and we don't live together. We did, for years at a time, more than once in the past.

What I do kinda works for me, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. I've come to the conclusion that, if you don't get along well enough with a man to want to live with him, then you probably have little to gain by being committed to him.

It is nice to have someone you can depend on to go out with for dinner, or whatever. But what if one of you gets sick. My guy is now in poor health. I'm half nuts with running back and forth between his place and my place.

I would strongly encourage you to continue living on your own for another year and, then, reevaluate your plans. Between now and then, I would postpone the wedding.

If I were a friend of your fiance, I would strongly discourage him from marrying a woman who did not want to live with him.

Maybe the two of you are just a couple who should continue seeing each other, but are not yet ready to marry, and may never be.

Being on meds probably wouldn't make you living with him work out any better than it did the last time.