my dad is having surgery tomorrow for an obstructed bowel. I am trapped at work. I have delegated my daughter into taking my mom up to the hospital and I just plain feel guilty. I am starting to realize how enmeshed my life is with mom and dad's. It doesn't help that I am an only child, who else can they turn to? My husband can't take my place today because he is taking his 83 year old mom to try and get her driver's license. She shouldn't be driving, so we're hoping that she'll fail the test. But he is also an only child, so chauffering duties will fall on him or us. Mainly him, because she and I don't get a long and that is one of the few boundaries that i have set. So I feel guilty about the fact that he helps with my parents, but I don't help with his mom. Is it any wonder that I feel hopeless and trapped?