Anglo, can you write down what you've written here? And explain that you need her to give you time, not start talking again.
Also, is there any way you could write some of the event? Even a word or two...that you could give to your T. I started my whole process by writing down some fragments for T...I was shaking so badly I don't know how she read them, some of them didn't make sense, but it was very helpful to me. There's no way I could speak at all, let alone say the words out loud.