maybe she isn't really in the place to be able to face up to how you have felt hurt in response to her behaviour. that is sad because it means that she isn't being there for you when you need her to be.

sometimes we need to decide for ourself how much it is worth our trying to repair things with that person and how much we would be better off trying to find other friendships where we are more likely to get our emotional needs met.

i guess i'd have a think about the benefits that i get from the relationship and weigh some of the hurts against those. if she kept doing the things that hurt you... could you cope with that in order to get some of the benefits of the friendship or would it not be worth it to you?

good luck with whatever you decide.