My T recently lost someone close to him. I only know this because my session was on the same day as the funeral and he had to rearrange. He was clearly affected but made it clear to me that he could take care of himself.
I know you have had lots of extraneous issues with this T, and it actually reminds me of wanting to take care of T1. Please remember that this is not therapy. It is ethically wrong for her to take payment for a service you aren't receiving and right now you aren't receiving effective therapy.
I do hope you move on from this T