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Originally Posted by BudFox
Looking back on my last therapy, there was the implicit promise of something like you describe. But nothing was ever said about how this would happen. The mechanism of therapy was never revealed or discussed. Turns out there was no mechanism, no real plan. This notion of "working though it" seems to be rarely flushed out.
A risky game. Activating deepest needs, then hoping this will somehow magically translate to something in the real world, rather than heartbreak and grief, possibly abandonment. And it's even a bit absurd to think that a paid professional is going to guide one in their relationships, as if someone can be paid to dispense that sort of wisdom.
Most helpful thing for me, and I hope the OP can take something from this, was realizing that I was responding in a very natural way to what was unfolding, whereas the process was not natural. Was a big weight off my shoulders.
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I don't disagree with you, and yes, therapy is way more risky than the profession will disclose. I cringe at the frequency the expression 'you need help!' or 'you should see a therapist!' is tossed around. It should not be entered lightly.
The catch 22 is that people that can get in and out of therapy easily probably don't need it all that much to begin with. People with more serious issues are much more likely get enmeshed and stuck in the process.
I've ready some pretty 'out there' posts on this board regarding feelings and desires that have cropped up during the therapy process, and don't consider most to be unnatural or atypical in the least bit. Therapy is a strange beast.