As long as you are effected by what your friends say about her, you are not mature enough to be married. You should look at marriage as a 50/50 partnership. If you want more out of her than you are willing to give, then don't trap her into that kind of relationship.

How would you like it if she didn't find you attractive? If you do not find her attractive physically, you may not be able to give her the kind of attention she deserves either. It is important in a marriage along with thousands of other issues.

One good key it to look at her, the relationship, her attitudes towards things along with yours, & picture yourselves together in 30-40 years. If you can't do that, then don't go there now. Responsibility, maturity, sensitivity, respect, these are all items that go towards building a successful marriage. Without any of these, you will probably be sorry later in your life that you ever made the decision to get married and there will never be love. Don't go into marriage thinking that divorce is the way out because divorce is hard to go through even when you finally realize that you do not love the person. It is much better to not go there in the first place if you are not sure.

It is not a warm fuzzy feeling, but just a down to earth feel that this person is someone you just can't live without for the rest of your life...no fireworks, thunder, lightning...no signs. It just takes analizing your feelings & the relationship & project into the future.