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Originally Posted by divine1966
You sound very intelligent and well read but you are making a lot of generalizations and absolute statements about people and relationships on this and other threads .
It appears that a lot of your knowledge comes from books. Although you can certainly learn a lot from books, most learning about people could only come from interacting with people. Women might have a predisposition wanting confident males since hunter/ gatherer times but you got to know modern women by interacting with them to know that things changed quite a bit. It might not say that in the books but you'll find out by interacting with women in real world.
I also think that although talking to strangers in a public place could be a good first step, it's rather tough to create anything meaningful with random strangers. You might be better off by joining groups of like minded people for example if you like biking join bikers club or if you read s lot joking book club. It's easier to build something with people who share your interests.
I don't think the person who used "bs" meant to be insulting. I think he/she meant that it is untrue that women "need" this or that. Some do some don't. How do you really know what women need? Unless you surveyed 1000s of women you can't possibly say there is anything women collectively want let alone "need".
I think "Bs" isn't used as profanity here but just indicate "this is not the case"
Let us know how it goes if you join any groups based on your hobbies or interests. It could be a lot of fun and good way to meet people
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Thanks. I agree about the books and social life. My readings though doesn't involve relationships. It just happens that I know a thing or two about evolution, and I try to find explanations about what people do based on that knowledge. It's just for my own satisfaction, because, granted, this knowledge doesn't benefit me approaching women
I'm not that disconnected from the modern world, I know how modern women live. That's why I'm here and talking about this, because I want to approach modern women. But I'm disconnected enough from them (actually from all social life), that my social skill is rotten still, which I think go deeper inside my personality. I don't like it at all, but it's there, and acts as a very thick barrier between me and others. That's why I think even meeting with people with same interests won't result in much change. I'm trying it, but it's not working so far. But I'll keep trying, because in the past I kept withdrawing, and the result was the same.
I also agree about strangers. I just want to overcome this issue and be able to speak what is in my mind, and be more spontaneous.
I really meant to say women prefer not need, or as you expressed it predisposed. I understand why it was taken negatively, especially when emphasized later by s4ndm4n2006, and made it look like as if I'm belittling women or something.