i did my own inner child work years ago, and it was hard, but yet, healing. i cannot remember the exact title of that self-help book that i used to help me with this process. heh. i read so many self-help books i could get my hands on. of course, i did therapy before, too. anyway, i commend you for the courage to work on this. it does take patience, but you'll reach her. i wish you the best.