Perhaps you are overthinking all of this. You are trying to find answers on a forum when this is really something that needs to be experienced in real life. If you have social anxiety problems it may be best to see a therapist.

Your answers are often very intellectual, even bordering on arrogant. Like your response to the alpha male thing. Who gives a fig how this developed? Or if it was this way 5,000 years ago. Go out on the street and ask any woman what an alpha male is and my bet is that she will have a ready answer. It is a term used in this modern age by modern women. Do you know what they mean when they speak of an alpha male? Get curious about others.

The average woman sitting in a coffee shop on a Saturday afternoon is probably not interested in a lecture on evolution. She will be laughing at a silly and lighthearted joke some other guy is making about the weather.

You are so invested in being right. This is probably a characteristic that is an obstacle. Maybe you are actually secretly judging women. You spoke of one girl you didn't talk to who was sitting at a table with you as being overweight. What did that have to do with anything? Were you saying that because she was overweight as opposed to a hot model type you should have been able to talk to her? Like because she was fat she should be happy if a guy spoke to her? Wow.

There is disconnect and distancing. I think you need therapy to find out why that is.

All these different responses may only serve to confuse you.

Love isn't an equation to be solved.

If love hasn't yet arrived, spend time working on yourself, your career, and other things that matter. Maybe get out and volunteer. Show up at an environmental clean-up day or something, instead of sitting home alone playing videos and reading. See a therapist to help you overcome social anxiety. You are kind of stuck in a place of bleak self-absorption. You need to break out of your shell and become curious about others.

You are starting to act a little mean towards the people who are leaving comments. Please don't respond to my comment. I am going off Psych Central for a break. I advise you to do the same.

Best of luck to you.

It is obvious everyone who replied on this thread has your best interest in mind and wishes you success.