almedafan, are you talking about confiding in a friend? I think we all need support in our lives and it is good to reach out to friends and family. We can't expect the therapist to be our sole support. If this is what you mean, I think it is great you want to reach out to your network for support. When I was seeing a CBT therapist, it was one of the first things she wanted me to do--build up my support resources. I remember her saying, "I can't do it all."

I hesitate to say this because I don't want to make assumptions, but could it be what you mean is you would like to have an affair with someone? If so, I would offer the view that that will not solve anything. You have mentioned before there is stress in your marriage, and it seems the honest and honorable thing to do is resolve that first before taking on new partners. For example, at least get separated first. If all you are wanting the partner for is support, then does it need to be an affair? Instead, could you cultivate friendships that can offer you the support you need?

Also, think of your son. It sends a powerful message to a child to know one parent betrayed the other. And at some point in his life, he will find out. To the child, it can feel like one parent has betrayed the family.

I am sorry if this is way off base. Your use of the word "diversion" suggested to me that maybe you meant you wanted to have an affair.

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But being in this marriage with the state that it is in is too much

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">How about a trial separation?