my word, i'm older than dirt, is that the grass dies after you get over the fence. be it the fact that the "greener" is married, not married, whatever. messing around with someone who isn't physically OR emotionally available it just like saying, "well, i believe i'll go to hell in a handbasket today"......

i only know of one instance where it worked out. it was the gentleman, Jack Schaefer, who wrote "Shane".....and it took years and years for the children to accept what he did. we were friends and i remember his pain over hurting his children and his wife. think before you do anything that you know you shouldn't do........xoxoxo pat