I'd like to give some input if that's alright.

First off Wandering, I can empathize with your situation. I'm a 23 yr old introverted male that has never been in a relationship. So I'd like to express that you are not alone in your situation and wish you the best.

Normally I tend to avoid picking "sides" but towards the end of the posts... it does rather seem like Wandering is getting ganged up on to an extent. Not to say there wasn't some truth to what was said, I won't deny that.

To bring up an example, the overweight girl argument. While morally speaking, yes it really shouldn't matter what you look like. But I feel there has been some unfairness. It's been argued that "alpha males get more attention" or "that girls try to use looks as a strength because they know that's what men look for".
Let me ask you a question then with your logic. Who would an alpha male typically pick? The one who may be overweight or one who isn't? Odds are... the one who isn't. So if a guy has trouble speaking to girls that he finds attractive or that make him nervous... Why so judgmental if it may be easier to speak with some one who doesn't make them feel that was as much cause maybe subconsciously he thinks that maybe talking to some one who hasn't been as well received/sought after so they might be more accepting?

I'm not saying that's always the case, like I said I'm just trying to follow the thinking behind these posts.

I'd also like to point out the stereotypical belief about men being sensitive. Even today boys and men are still under scrutiny on how "tough" we are supposed to be. This is also an evolutionary trait and sadly it's still in the dark ages if you want to compare say the modern woman no longer needs to follow the "hunter/gather" stigma...at least in my opinion.
I'll say it, I'm an immensely sensitive person and Ive put up with a lot of **** in my life. I basically grew up believing that I was unloved as a person. Which I know isn't true... I know I have family and friends that do. Yet because I've never experienced physical affection, intimacy, or being in love with some one and getting those feelings reciprocated... I still FEEL that way. But because we as men get so absurdly judged for it, I've had to put up this stupid shell of pride saying Im perfectly fine. When on the inside I'm in such pain that frankly... there are just no words to describe it. You are screaming but you have no voice.
And sadly, if it wasn't for my pride as "The Surviving Lone Wolf, showing to the world that I've been through hell and still keep going"... Well to be blunt: Pride is the only thing keeping me going and without it I would probably be dead right now.

I apologize for rambling, but the point I'm trying to make is not all guys can just brush off the rejections we get. It starts happening long enough to where we begin to feel anger and resentment. We want to keep trying.. but we slowly hold back more and more because we don't want to get hurt.
So basically, it's not always just "being nervous or shy", it's our subconscious mind restraining us so we don't get hurt and feel more pain that we could already be in.


So Wandering, I really hope you find that some one. Believe in yourself and believe in the fact that no one is fated to be alone. That's what I tell myself anyways lol