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Originally Posted by BudFox
Looking back on my last therapy, there was the implicit promise of something like you describe. But nothing was ever said about how this would happen. The mechanism of therapy was never revealed or discussed. Turns out there was no mechanism, no real plan. This notion of "working though it" seems to be rarely flushed out.
A risky game. Activating deepest needs, then hoping this will somehow magically translate to something in the real world, rather than heartbreak and grief, possibly abandonment. And it's even a bit absurd to think that a paid professional is going to guide one in their relationships, as if someone can be paid to dispense that sort of wisdom.
Most helpful thing for me, and I hope the OP can take something from this, was realizing that I was responding in a very natural way to what was unfolding, whereas the process was not natural. Was a big weight off my shoulders.
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I think not all therapist seem to realise how much impact the therapeutic relationship can have on a client. They should be teached more about it.
I have romantic feelings for my Pdoc. I felt ashamed to tell it to my T, but she reacted well to it.
Some months after that I finally told my Pdoc about my feelings. It was bothering me so much. He reacted good. Said that it happens, some people get feelings for their T or Pdoc. There's isn't anything wrong about it. We can't do anything with it, but it isn't wrong.
This is what I felt. That I was wrong. I know that in such relationships, dating and such isn't allowed. And that's why I felt I was wrong. And it made me ashamed to tell others (T and Pdoc) about it.
And now with this attachement to my T, it feels like it's wrong and that's why I'm really afraid to tell her about it.