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Originally Posted by Chummy
I need to build more friendship anf I want to find a partner. But I'm not in the right place to do that yet. I hope to start college in September and school is a good place to meet new people.
I don't think my T is the only person who can meet my ''needs''. I understand very well that it isn't the job of a T to fulfill your needs. But I long for some contact of her. And I feel ashamed to tell her that.
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Sorry Chummy! I didn't mean to put things on you that might not apply! Just making some observations.
I think many of us (including myself) have looked to therapists to meet needs that the therapists weren't equipped to meet. Rationally, we know certain truths but our emotions don't always fall in line.
As an example, I used to struggle a lot with my therapist's vacations. Rationally, I knew she deserved a vacation, I knew she'd be back, and I knew I'd survive in her absence. Emotionally, I couldn't understand how she could go somewhere nice while I was home struggling, I felt she was never coming back, and I felt I was going to dissolve into a lonesome mess in her absence. Reasonably, I couldn't expect my therapist to always be at my beck and call, but it felt like a very strong need none the less. It was a good opportunity to look to other supports.
You have no reason to feel ashamed at all! I think it's great that you are considering revealing emotions that are embarrassing and difficult. The more you share with your therapist, the more she can help you. The good part about developing feelings for your therapist (instead of someone else) is that she can help you through the feelings.