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Originally Posted by Chummy
I think not all therapist seem to realise how much impact the therapeutic relationship can have on a client. They should be teached more about it.
I have romantic feelings for my Pdoc. I felt ashamed to tell it to my T, but she reacted well to it.
Some months after that I finally told my Pdoc about my feelings. It was bothering me so much. He reacted good. Said that it happens, some people get feelings for their T or Pdoc. There's isn't anything wrong about it. We can't do anything with it, but it isn't wrong.
This is what I felt. That I was wrong. I know that in such relationships, dating and such isn't allowed. And that's why I felt I was wrong. And it made me ashamed to tell others (T and Pdoc) about it.
And now with this attachement to my T, it feels like it's wrong and that's why I'm really afraid to tell her about it.
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You keep saying that what you're feeling is "wrong." I used to think that about some of my feelings too (and still do). But one of my marriage counselor's main philosophies (like, it's on his biography on the practice's website) is that feelings aren't right or wrong--they just are. Whatever you feel is OK. It's about what you do with those feelings. I still struggle with that sometimes, but I try to keep that in mind. I've discussed my mostly paternal (though sometimes erotic) transference for him (and did so again recently via e-mail), and it's been difficult, but ultimately a good thing. It helps that he's experience it from other clients before and is comfortable with it and makes me feel like it's totally normal.
Your T seems to really care about you, and I think she'd be really understanding. I think it would help you--and your relationship with your T--to talk about it with her. Even if it's scary.
