Last year I said goodbye to my T. It's been hard, but I'm doing fine now. Time does heal, please keep that in mind.

What helped me, was to talk about it with my T. We talked a lot about how ending therapy made me feel and how I would want to say goodbye. We had a beautiful last session where we looked back on everything that had happened, I thanked him and gave him a present, and we hugged. We had never hugged before, so I was a little afraid to ask, but I'm very glad I did. It was healing to talk to my T about our goodbye and also the last session itself was healing. I think having the chance to say goodbye properly, helps you go through the process.

After therapy ended, I went through a rough time. I was heartbroken, it hurt so much. I talked to my friends about it, I wrote in my diary, I allowed myself to feel sad, lots of self-soothing, I visited these forums a lot and I even chatted online with professionals. Eventually over time, it got better. I don't think I'll ever be completely over him, since he has done so much for me, but I think that's okay. It's been a life changing event.