Here's an alternate view...

My pdoc (not my therapist!) actually SUGGESTED that I have an affair! Really!!

He said, "If a nice man asks you to lunch, go."

What?!?!?

I asked for clarification. Yes, he meant have a torrid love affair! He said I was stuck in my depression and PTSD. He said I always played by the rules, had great insight into my problems, and yet my hopeless feelings remained unchanged. The only way to shift, he thought, was to do something incredibly out of character and just for me.

I laughed and asked if he kept a referral sheet of available men.

Anyway, as absurd as it first sounded, I later thought that in terms of my goody-two-shoes-but-still-a-bunch-of-misery-coming-my-way pattern, there was a grain of truth to this radical advice . . .

Just wanted to contribute that there is a least one professional who would say there is a therapeutic reason to consider it.