I am very attached to my T and it has been really painful and confusing. One thing that has really helped me recently is I have always had this idolized version of my T in my head and thinking she is like that 24/7 and wanted her to be my parent. A couple of weeks ago we had a phone call that was a rough one. She was tired and not herself and we ended up upsetting each other. It was hard to hear her like that but it showed me that she does have times where she is tired and not herself and does get upset. It showed me that she is human and this version of her that was in my head is not real so I no longer cling to it. I am happy that her role in my life is my therapist. So the transference I had is not as strong. The attachment I have for her is strong because we have a good, healthy relationship and I miss her and our sessions.

To cope between sessions when my attachment is strong because I miss her I listen to our sessions. I record them and its been a very valuable tool for me. Can you record your sessions? I also journal about therapy which helps.