Guilt is widely what I feel, and I'm sure my T said it because I felt deserving of that behaviour, she wanted me to understand that I had nothing to feel guilty over. I'd taken on far too much responsibility that really didn't belong to me. For me to have something to compare my SDs behaviour to, I had acknowledgement that it wasn't me.

I think T's do what they think is best, sometimes it doesn't always have the desired effect but we all make mistakes. The best thing about the situation is, most T's want to know if they've upset you or said something wrong because they don't want it to effect the relationship we share with them.