Wandering Soul, Just by the way you interact here, I see that you have a lot more social skills than you are giving yourself credit for.

I bet you can be just fine one-on-one with someone you trust and don't feel self-conscious around. Part of your trouble is you are imagining that other people are way more smooth and confident than they actually are. There's more people worrying about how they sound and what you think of them than you realize.