Not to be dense, but more out of confusion and trying to understand what your therapist has done, I am wondering how can a therapist refer to you with a gender pronoun to your face? Sorry for the question. I am genuinely confused and also wanting to understand. I have seen my therapist for 16 months and have never been referred to with any kind of gender--not for the same reason as you, but because my therapist is talking to me directly. I'm not all that enlightened on the subject, although I live in a fairly liberal town. Our local bakery refers to its people-shaped gingerbread cookies as "pants" and "dress" and the counter people will correct anyone who asks for a gingerbread boy or girl.

I apologize in advance, but your problem has me stumped.