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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
You keep saying that what you're feeling is "wrong." I used to think that about some of my feelings too (and still do). But one of my marriage counselor's main philosophies (like, it's on his biography on the practice's website) is that feelings aren't right or wrong--they just are. Whatever you feel is OK. It's about what you do with those feelings. I still struggle with that sometimes, but I try to keep that in mind. I've discussed my mostly paternal (though sometimes erotic) transference for him (and did so again recently via e-mail), and it's been difficult, but ultimately a good thing. It helps that he's experience it from other clients before and is comfortable with it and makes me feel like it's totally normal.
Your T seems to really care about you, and I think she'd be really understanding. I think it would help you--and your relationship with your T--to talk about it with her. Even if it's scary.  |
For me it feels wrong because relationships other that the therpeutic one are not allowed in therapy. And I won't act on my feelings, but that's why I feel there're wrong. I would also feel that with teachers or docters.
I also had that with my Pdoc. But since I told him and her reacted wel to me, I don't feel that bad anymore. I do feel a bit ashamed when I see him, but like when I talk to my T abot it, I don't feel that wrong anymore.
I've read a lot from you about you MC. He sounds like a good T who knows how to deal with such stuff.
So far my T has reacted mostly well to whatever I told her. But with some things I'm afraid that this will be that will mess things up. That she will decide it's better ''for me'' to see another T. I'm afraid she will say that when she's back from leave (if she ever comes back).
She's also a lot younger than your MC. It has been about 6-7 years since she graduated from university. So she has a lot less experiences.
So far I've had two session with T and replacement T. And I've barely looked at any of them during those. And that other T said something like that it's a shame I don't look at my T because then I would see the compassion she has on her face for me.
When things get hard, I usually avoid eye contact. And then still, I find it hard to see such things. Because of this relationship. She gets paid to see me. It's her work. And then my previous experiences with T's. There's a lot of insecurity for me.