Thanks for pointing this out. I didn't mean to say that it prevents reactivity 100% of the time. I've seen my therapist be reactive a few times over the years.... I do believe, however, that verbalizing/making all your unconscious needs conscious has a way of being able to push your needs aside to be able to fully focus on another's needs most of the time/when necessary.

Also, I don't think the depth therapy is the only factor here. It takes a lot for a person to be able to get through that kind of therapy, so that reflects on the therapist's inherent traits too. I don't think it's common that someone really messed up could tolerate that kind of therapy, so that has a way of weeding some out.