Same here! Yes, the difference is remarkable. I also thought it was worth mentioning as in another thread Bud Fox mentions "weeding out" therapists. This is one thing in the industry (or a small community within the industry) that actually does that.

I don't think it's that crucial for many clients, but I do think it's really important for those with childhood trauma history, especially for those of us who develop these intense attachments.

One thing that matters with trauma patients is the therapist being sucked into their world by interacting with/reacting to the patterns presented by the client as this is what happens in relationships outside of therapy. Sort of like what's happening with Winenot's therapist in another thread. This is very fundamental to those who understand how to implement object relations concepts.