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Originally Posted by ex vivo
BudFox, this is the post i was thinking of when i wrote my last response although i quoted another by mistake.
If a therapist lets themselves be vulnerable, which would mean increased intimacy, that comes with needs. Need to be accepted, need to be liked, need to not be rejected, etc.
People are damaged everyday because someone else acted on their impulses. I don't understand how that can help therapy. If you know of a way this can help the therapy, i'd be interested.
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I'm not saying more therapist self-disclosure is better. I'm not saying less would be better. I'm suggesting that it's so difficult to find this elusive balance, not because the therapist is screwed up or is using the wrong approach, but because the whole relationship is so contorted and contrived -- in my experience. My last therapist did not know how to respond to half of what I said because of all the whacked out constraints and rules. Anything said by either of us was scrutinized under the microscope. Every gesture, every facial expression, even the silences were analyzed for their therapeutic meaning.