I'm so very sorry this is happening to you. I'm 57 and my mom still does these things to me, but in a whole different manipulative way. I'm here for a few months until I can get back out on my own. When she suspects that I'm making any plans to leave, she gets super nasty. I'm starting a new job tomorrow and the next stop is moving out. I do have money in savings for rent & security deposit. Let's hope it's sooner than later!